While everything might have seemed simple at the beginning of your relationship, going through a divorce can bring about many different emotions and challenges that you never expected before. Read the divorce process do’s and don’ts to learn more about some of the most common do’s and don’ts when you are looking at getting a divorce. One of the most important things you can do for yourself if you are thinking about ending your marriage is to consult with an Arizona family lawyer to learn more about your options.

The Do’s

Do support your children throughout this difficult process

It is even more difficult for children to process everything that has happened so do not force them to take sides. Spend extra time and effort working with them to establish a relationship with you on your own. Make sure to cooperate as much as possible with your soon-to-be former spouse. Compromise can make things easier and faster in terms of resolving key issues in divorce cases. This is not always easy, but it is something important to keep in mind as you go through your divorce.

Do make sure your spouse is aware of when and where you will be spending time with your children while you are working on more permanent custody arrangements

If you don’t communicate travel plans or other things outside of the norm, your spouse might think that you have left with the children and could even ask the police to track you down. This would not look good during court proceedings and it may generate unnecessary pleadings and legal fees, so just keep them in the know even though you do not have to account for your every step.

Be upfront about disclosing all your property and assets

A court could throw out a final divorce decree as a result of financial deception and this could lead you back to court. Avoid this where possible. Consult with an attorney to discuss what should be exchanged, information-wise.

Do your own research

With a little help, you can feel like you are making educated decisions about child support, legal decision-making authority, parenting time, spousal maintenance and some of the other options and issues you may need to resolve through divorce. Make sure to ask your attorney questions if you don’t understand something.

The Don’ts

Do not lose your temper

Even though emotions are running high and it can be difficult to move on with your life after a divorce, try to keep your frustration out of the equation. This can only make things worse for your children or you. Remember that, especially written, communications could be viewed by an expert assigned to your case and/or the judge.

Don’t violate any existing parenting time or temporary decision-making arrangements

This could make it more difficult for you to get the rights you would like in the future.

Do not try to give away property to friends or relatives and try to get it back after the divorce is over

If you make the attempt to hide property and your spouse finds out about it, you could wind up back in court and could face contempt sanctions.

Do not go through the divorce process alone

This is a complicated process that requires the insight of an Arizona family law attorney and most likely the support of your friends and family.

This blog should be used for informational purposes only. It does not create an attorney-client relationship with any reader and should not be construed as legal advice. If you need legal advice regarding The Divorce Process Do’s and Don’ts, or any other family law issue, please feel free to contact Sheri D. Shepard at 480.461.5300, log on to udallshumway.com, or contact an attorney in your area. Udall Shumway PLC is located in Mesa, Arizona and is a full service law firm. We assist Individuals, families, businesses, schools and municipalities in Mesa and the Phoenix/East Valley.